Sometimes the Truth Spills Out
by And the White Lion Roars!
I remember the ’90s. A decade of joy and sorrow, like most decades in our lives. One thing that has stood out for me as a gay ally is the “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” policy for which President Bill Clinton got so much criticism. Now, my family has a HUGE military presence, and I heard more comments about this policy than I care to share, almost all from male servicemen who were completely freaked out by the notion of “showering with queers.” I knew then, and I still know that the reason they were so afraid of being ogled and harangued by other men was because they were pretty sure a gay man would treat them as they had treated women in this “boys will be boys” rape culture that America has nurtured for centuries. There are plenty of current stories that prove this culture is still prevalent in the United States; rapists getting slapped on the wrists by male judges, women being blamed for rape because of what they wear or how much they drink, and on and on.
Skip up to the “aught-teens,” and in 2016 there has been a GINORMOUS kerfuffle about what bathrooms trans-gender people should use; should it be the bathroom of the sex they identify with, or the sex listed on their birth certificates? There have been people making threats to come with weapons into public restrooms to “protect women” from trans-gender people, despite the fact that there has never been a reported case of a trans person molesting anyone in a public restroom. I would venture to speculate that trans people would be far less likely to molest anyone in public since they are already more than thirty times more likely to be assaulted in public than anyone. Of any race. Of any religion. It just doesn’t happen.
The trans bathroom issue is big in my hometown, Fort Worth, TX because the Fort Worth schools superintendent has made policy meant to protect trans-gender students, and he has taken the wrath of god from all the rabid conservative lawmakers in Texas. They’ve tried to have him fired, sued, tarred and feathered, and worse. And of course, many who claim to follow a god who claims to Be Love are in the anti-trans movement. On yesterday’s evening news there was a local pastor who finally explicated the truth to me, whether he liked it or not. He is the father of twins who will be in kindergarten in the upcoming school year, and he said that he is most worried about boys (as in STRAIGHT boys) using the trans bathroom rules as an excuse to go into the ladies restroom. And there was an explosion of fireworks in my head when I heard this. “OH, SEE WHAT THOU HAST WROUGHT!!!!!!! This father is afraid of the rape culture that has been created by the patriarchy victimizing HIS children.
Yup. Boys have got away with it for so long, that straight men are now afraid that the culture of victimizing and then blaming women has created monsters are now pretending that those boys, women and girls need to be protected from the people most likely to be assaulted in public places. It almost reminds me of how the KKK got started; to stop black predators away from “Our white women.”
Now, go to your room and think about what you have done!